The 3rd Character Quality of a Disciple is to Deny him/herself as the authority and focus of one’s life. From my experience as a cadet, I know what it means to deny self-interest for the interest of the Corps of Cadets. I will mention some of those experiences. Would you comment on this blog and tell me some of your experiences as a cadet or military man or woman?
Read Mark 8:27-38 for the context of this discussion.
When I entered the Corps of Cadets at Texas A&M, one thing that became clear from the beginning was that I would have to set aside many of my personal interests. It was no longer about what I wanted; it was about the interests of the Corps and my classmates. The Corps taught me to deny myself. I learned how to deny myself of sleep, entertainment, free time, pride, and many other personal interests. Everyday I had to make decisions that denied what I wanted to do so that I could accomplish the interests of the Corps and my classmates. And at the end of the 4 years, I was glad I had denied my selfish interest and loved for the interest of the Corps and others. I realized that had I not denied my felt interests and only pursued what I wanted, I would not have become half the man that the Corps produces. I would not have benefited from the deep relational friendships that were bonded through living for others.
Living life in a military context brings major conflict of interests. There are our interests in life and the militaries interests in life, and they conflict on several fronts. In order to meet the interests of the military to protect the constitution of the United States against all enemies, foreign and domestic, requires personal sacrifice. It requires you to deny many personal interests. Family interests, living location interests, time interests, physical comfort interests, etc…
Yet, everyday, men and women all over the world “deny themselves” in order to fulfill the interests of the military. They know what it means to “deny themselves” more than anyone else. They know what it feels like to set aside personal interests for the interest of another. So when Jesus says, “deny himself,” they know what that means. The only question is whether they think God’s interests are worth denying themselves over.
Let’s take a look at what Jesus is asking us to deny, and for what.
In the passage, there is the issue, the reasoning, and the reward.
The Issue: “You are not setting your mind on God’s interests, but man’s.” Peter did not want Jesus to suffer and die because he had his own personal interests and they did not include Jesus dying. But we know that God’s purpose for Jesus was “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many” (Mark 10:45).
The issue is whether we will live according to our own interests or God’s interests. There is a battle going on in our lives. The scriptures refer to this battle to be between God’s Spirit and our flesh.
Gal. 5:16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh. 17 For the flesh sets its desire against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; for these are in opposition to one another, so that you may not do the things that you please.
How do we know if something is of the flesh? Mark Bailey gave me two great questions to ask to determine if my intentions are of the flesh.
- Does it cause me to sin?
- Does it cause me to put anything as the focus of my attention other than Christ?
The Reasoning: “For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake and the gospel’s will save it.” If you want to save your fleshly interests, if you want to live by the desires of your own selfishness (sin), then you will lose the life you could have that come from God’s interests. You lose what God could do in and through your life. If you lose (deny) the life of self-interest, of following after your own fleshly desires, then you will save, gain, have the life that is a result of allowing God’s desires and will to be lived in and through you. “For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world, and forfeit his soul?”
Is this really a hard decision?
The Reward: Look at all the rewards that are located in the passage alone. A saved life, a saved soul, no shame. If we follow the life of Peter, he went both directions. He first denied Jesus three times. He was in misery and shame. Then he lived a life complete surrender to the interests of Christ and though he died a martyrs death, he lived a full and complete life and is now experiencing the incomprehensible joys and rewards in heaven.
You serve in the military because of the issue, the reasoning, and the reward. The issue is to deny your self-interest because you wish to serve our country’s interests. The reason is because that life of service is much more rewarding than a life of self-service. The reward is the honor you receive, the bonding friendships that you make with other military men and women.You know what it means to live out the second character quality of a disciple: To deny yourself as the focus and authority of your life. Will you make a daily effort to learn and live out the interests